This post is dedicated to all the amazing women who were real with me about what I was getting myself into. You are my heroes. Seriously.
Now that our pregnancy is public, the number one question I am (understandably) asked is “How are you feeling?” And honestly, now that I’m in my second trimester, I’m feeling pretty good! But the first trimester… that was an entirely different story.
I made a promise to myself during fertility treatments that I when I became pregnant I would not complain about my symptoms, no matter how bad they were. I know all too well that many women would sacrifice just about anything for the blessing of being able to carry a child. In honor of them, and my own journey, I have been determined to ride out the difficult parts of pregnancy with positivity and grace.
However, in some situations, there is nothing wrong with telling it like it is. So ladies (or gentlemen who happen to be reading this), in the spirit of encouragement and camaraderie let me tell you, pregnancy is not all sunshine and rainbows.
Lest you be fooled by what I like to call the “perfect preggo” whose pictures we often see floating around Instagram, let me give you a small glimpse of what my first three months were like.
My workout routine was the first thing to go, followed closely by my ability to eat anything that remotely resembled healthy food. I didn’t do my hair or wear make-up. Ever. Attempting to shower on a somewhat regular basis and put on clean, matching clothes became a monumental task; as did driving, walking, running errands, doing housework, talking to people, and showing up for work on time. If I was fully clothed, smelling alright, and not throwing up it was a good day.
Insane nausea and fatigue ruled all. Pre-pregnancy Kendra harshly judged pregnant Kendra on a daily basis, but sick and tired pregnant Kendra could have cared less.
There is one incident in particular that I think perfectly captures the “glamour” of this stage. SPOILER ALERT: If you don’t like reading stories that involve throw up, stop now. You have been warned.
One morning smack dab in the middle of my first trimester, David was getting ready for work and therefore occupying our only bathroom. I was in the middle of my own morning routine: lying in bed taking deep breaths while waiting for my anti-nausea medicine to take effect. (Can I get an “amen” for Zofran?) Delaney, our unsuspecting bulldog, was sleeping on her bed in our room.
All of a sudden, a swift and fierce wave of nausea hit; unfortunately this was going to be a day where Zofran did mercifully little to control my symptoms. I jumped out of bed and sprinted towards the closed door of our bathroom. Delaney, thinking this was a signal to play, ran ahead of me and jumped up on the front of my legs. The epic nausea, closed bathroom door, and bulldog delay were the perfect storm. I lost it. EVERYWHERE. Right there in my hallway.
Delaney fled to safety and poor David opened the door a second later to find me kneeling in a gigantic mess, still very much in the middle of getting sick. He gently ushered me into the bathroom and began cleaning up. A couple minutes later, while I was still huddled over the toilet, I heard him say “Aw, bulldog, she got you too.”
You guys, I threw up on my dog. This is pregnancy.
Granted, I have had a harder introduction to pregnancy than a lot of women. I know my “morning” (read: all day) sickness was on the severe end of the scale. I even ended up in the hospital for fluids after an extremely bad bought of nausea left me dangerously dehydrated.
So, if you are reading this and have not experienced pregnancy for yourself, don’t let me scare you. I just want to provide a little levity and encouragement so you don’t feel bad if you don’t live up to the myth of the woman with an easy breezy pregnancy. One day you can say to yourself, “at least I didn’t throw up on my dog like that one chick.”
And if you happen to be one of those aforementioned “perfect preggos” then more power to you! Please, share your secrets with the rest of us.
9 thoughts on “This is Pregnancy”
Ah I love hearing this!!! Makes me laugh!! I remember you being sick in Albania. Pregnancy is hard and wonderful. I have had 4 pregnancy and 3 heathy babies and 1 miscarriage and it’s never perfect. every pregnancy is different not harder or better just different. and in my experience if you feel sick it’s a good sign because it means there is a healthy baby growing I never got sick with the baby that I miscarried.
Haha! It has been very much like Albania! ;). But, I am thankful for it, because it’s the only real connection I had to being pregnant during those beginning months. Glad the post made you laugh!!
After our years a struggling with fertility I swore the same thing, “I’m going to really embrace this experience I fought so hard for”. But after the constant nausea and losing weight and even a trip to the ER for dehydration. My standard answer was “I feel horrible, this is the best experience of my life!”.
It sounds like we’ve had very similar pregnancies so far! That has basically been my standard answer too :). “I’m really sick, but so so thankful.”
Kendra! This made me laugh out loud, while also feeling so sorry for you! That little baby is going to bring you so much joy you won’t even remember those horrifying few months where you couldn’t get your life together. It’s a beautiful mess from here on out sister! So happy for you and the family you have made!
Haha! Thanks, Jessie! You have to be able to laugh at yourself, right?? Glad it’s making others laugh too. It’s pretty much the best journey in the world, nausea and all. Can’t wait for everything that’s coming!
This is perfect! I literally just wrote my draft tonight & the similarities had me cracking up- misery loves company, right? Glad to know I’m in good company! I too have felt a little guilty about complaining when there are women who would love to experience pregnancy, however when it sucks, it sucks & it’s nice to know it’s okay to talk about it. Good luck to you during the rest of your pregnancy, I will be back to read more 🙂
Thanks! And yes, misery definitely loves company ;).
Poor doggie. I hope you feeling better now x